October 8th, 2008
I would assume, that as a person of this crazy wild world, one would understand the reasons behind why things happen the way they do. But after living for what is almost twenty-five years, I still haven’t got it right. After all, that’s why we’re here. Isn’t it? We think all is great, nothing seems complicated, there’s no problem that cannot be solved. It’s great, in thought, but it still doesn’t make it true.
After living for what seems like forever accustomed to one thing, I have recently come to realize that just because things seem one way, it doesn’t mean they are. In actuality, life can through the biggest, most unexpected curve ball at you that, instead of passing right next to you with this rapid wind, it literally hits you in the face in slow motion. Ouch… That’s when you know it hurts and, as you slowly fall backwards to the floor, you see your entire life in a flash. Just not the flash that you expected. I don’t know if it’s the blow to your head that makes you see things clearly, but I really am glad it finally hit me.
See, I believe people are part of your life for a reason. They come and go and, the ones that do stay are only there for the same reason you are, because ultimately you accept each other to a degree that no one else could even begin to comprehend. You feel, dare I say, lucky (for those who believe in luck). Call me naive, but I’ve always been one of those people. Firm believer in personalities, regardless of what that is or means to you. Because after all, what are we supposed to do, really? And don’t get me wrong, that’s one of the things that I love about myself, to have that ability in such an innocent way, but what that ball to my face taught me was that, in reality, just because you are that way, doesn’t mean everyone around you will be. Specially people who you may call “friends”.
Things are here one second and in the blink of an eye, they magically disappear. One thing ends so another can begin. And most importantly, friends come and go. Sad part is that you never really know the reason as to why. Why do people walk in and out if your life? What can be done for this to be prevented? Truth is we never really know the answer to most of these questions. Is just they way life is. One of those mysteries that must remain unsolved. If you think about it, most of the time people walk out of your life for reasons that you may have no control of, but for once, just once; is it possible to be honest about this? Is it possible to really tell a person the truth as to why you are walking out of their lives? The answer is, yes. Things remain unresolved because most people don’t really have it in their heads to say what they really think or even feel. To most people this is a bizarre concept. Sad, isn’t it? But true. People must rather lie to each other in hopes of conserving whatever is left of a relationship (You know those little white lies we tell each other to avoid hurting someone?) Truth is, when is all said and done, it doesn’t solve anything. It doesn’t make whatever problem that was there to begin with disappear; it just makes it worse, because in the end, the truth always comes out.
Whether it hurts or not, whether it tares your relationships apart, whether these people stay or leave, is it really worth it to lie to someone? I believe that we cannot be afraid to hurt someone’s feelings, specially the people you love. Trust is something that is crucial in a relationship. Is it worth it to break that trust? I guess this is something that still remains unsolved in my head, but for now, I’ll resort to what I do know. People are in your lives at certain times for a specific reason. It may be that they will teach you something that no one else in this life time would have. Or maybe they’re there at one point because it made sense. Or maybe you grow apart. Or maybe you grow so close together that fear takes over. Or maybe it’s just mere distance. Or maybe, they never left to begin with. Who knows? Life has a funny way of working and maybe, they leave at a certain time so you can cross paths in the future. So keep the ones that love you and accept you for who you really are close and those that are gone will certainly be missed, until life throws us a date with destiny.
Until then…
